By Paula Ramirez
Photography by dmfoto
When preparing for the Big Day, you will, no doubt, go to great lengths to make it amazing. You secretly wish that it will be everything you‘ve dreamed of and more. Every last detail is so very important and you devote all your energy and precious time to make sure it personal to the both of you.
Priorities certainly and understandably vary from bride to bride, however there is one thing that everyone agrees on, making it your own. Your wedding vows may be the most intimate and sentimental parts of the day, and if left unnoticed, the most ordinary. Presuming you are in favor of the former, then personalizing your promises to one another should jump to the top of your wedding “To Do’s. It is a wonderfully romantic gesture to share, with each other and with those closest to you, your love and appreciation for one another.
Choosing to pen your own vows should be mutually agreed upon very early in the wedding planning process. Begin writing early so that it does not become a burden as the Big Day draws near. Be sure to allow for plenty of time to gather your thoughts and feelings and express them to your love in a way that is clearly understood and felt by all. Will your vows be funny or romantic? Short, but powerful? Or will they be lengthy, as if you are telling a story?
Before you begin, come to an agreement on the length, flow and feel of your vows. You will also want to make sure that your vows are an acceptable option for your chosen officiant. Next, open a bottle of wine together and initiate conversation about the beginning of your relationship. Remember all the reasons you fell in love. Then, each of you go quietly to be alone with your thoughts and feelings.
Think back to when you first met. Remember how you felt, what it looked like and what you cherish most about your unique love. Think of how much he supports you and remember all of the reasons why you are so right for each other and how your deep connection will carry you beautifully through all that life has to offer you as a couple, and then as a family. Imagine what your future will be together and say it through your vows. All of your sentiments together, should build ultimately toward a promise, many promises in fact, that you will vow to keep your love alive forever.
So what will your list of priorities look like? Take tedious items off the list and consider moving your vows to the top. Creating and reciting your own vows will be the perfect touch of sentiment to your most amazing day. Take the time and make the effort to graciously allow your guests a small glimpse into your life as a couple. How better to share your personal and unique love than to make your vows your own?
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Paula Ramirez is the Proprietor of Historic Mankin Mansion. Historic Mankin Mansion is a Richmond wedding venue located just minutes from Downtown. Historic Mankin Mansion combines Southern Hospitality, Lasting History and Exceptional Service to make your Richmond wedding a memorable one. For more information, visit www.historicmankinmansion.com