A Note from Our Managing Editor regarding COVID-19
As some of you know, I’m engaged too, with the wedding date of May 16th.
Never in a million, trillion years did I think I was going to be in this position. I want to go back to myself when I got engaged and say, “you will literally never believe what’s going to throw a wrench into your wedding planning.”
Suddenly, I’m refreshing the CDC’s website every five minutes, and suddenly I can’t stand going on any sort of social media, which is tough because that’s my job. While I’m scared and uncertain what’s going to happen in the future, I’m also so sad that this had to happen around my wedding. With every news update my heart sinks deeper and deeper.
On March 15th, the CDC recommended that gatherings be limited to 50 people for the next eight weeks. My heart yearns for you brides that are in those eight weeks. I wish I could hug you through the computer.
My wedding, however, is in nine weeks.
Does that make me feel better? Worse? Or am I quickly approaching the point of going numb? I don’t know. I don’t know what I should do, I don’t know what I shouldn’t do. I’m trying to stay positive, but I’m sure every spring bride can relate, it feels like my 1.5 years of planning is swirling quickly down the drain and all I can do is watch from my quarantined home office.
And as of right now, my wedding is going on as planned. But as of SEVEN days ago, I didn’t think I would even need to think about this.
If you are finding yourself in a similar situation as I am, twiddling your thumbs while trying not to cry, I suggest first and foremost getting in contact with your vendors. While they also have never been in a situation like this before, they have had to deal with cancellations and postponing. Connect with them (yes, all of them) and ask them what it would look like if you were pushed to postpone or worse, cancel. The sooner the better! Plus, sometimes it’s just nice to hear from someone else that it’s going to be okay.
A note: If you’re at the point whether you’re debating canceling or postponing, from a vendor’s standpoint, I would postpone. Your vendors are just as devastated as you are, and their livelihood depends on weddings like ours. Plus you deserve to have that party you’ve always dreamed of. If you cancel altogether vs. postpone, you will most likely lose any money your have already put forth. (You will have to refer to your signed contact for more info on cancellations.)
Try to stop picturing what your day is “supposed” to look like. Maybe you planned a wedding for 150, but have you seen how romantic and totally gorgeous a small 50 person wedding could be. My entire wedding planning process I’ve joked that we should have just eloped and had a huge party afterwards, and my dream might come true.
And finally, keep telling yourself that it’s going to be okay. That all the invitations, rentals, plans were for one thing, marrying your best friend. I think that’s the one thing that might be a silver lining to this whole ordeal, you see what really matters. Try not to think about it, logout of Twitter, do that Bon Appetit recipe you’ve had saved for forever. As much as I think it will, stressing about this situation will not make anything better. It’s truly out of our hands, and what’s meant to be will be.
Myself, and everyone here at Richmond Weddings™, is sending love and support to all of our couples as well as wedding professionals in this scary, unpredictable time. We are here to help in any way we can. Please use our website and social media as a resource. We’re putting together a post with all of their advice for this time, so keep an eye out.
Hopefully, I’ll be checking in soon and all of this will be behind us, but in the meantime, let me know if you’re in a similar boat in the comments. I think we all could use some love in a time like this.
Managing Editor, Richmond Weddings™